life.. love..
Posted by juliefromdablock at 01:34 AM on October 24, 2005 in .
Friends
Friends... are the people who are left by your side when everyone has turned their backs unto you...people who really know who you really are but accepts you anyway...loves you unconditionally..you fight with them but still know that everything will be alright..they are there to guide you and sometimes to just let you do your thing...they brighten up your days...they are the people who knows when to just listen and when to speak up...I guess life has no greater blessing than a true friend...they help you move on with life knowing that everything will be fine...because you have them...they give you strength to hold on when everything in life seemed to be falling apart..they love you for who you really are...
I've met quite a few true friends..and these are the people I will treasure for all of my life...we might have gone to different paths but still I know in my heart that I can still count on them...we remained friends through the distance...we might not see each other nor talk to each other but still we know that we still have each other...and the feeling will never change..it's like we were never far from each other...we miss the walks, the talks, and everything about the person...but when we see each other...it's seems like things never changed...we laugh about how life has changed us...we laugh about the people we once loved...we laugh about the way we are now...but we laugh because we are happy that we stayed the way we are...
I learned to treasure the true friends I have...maybe because I have been betrayed before..I guess that's what really hurt the most..the thought that the one person you considered as your friend will betray you...I guess it's because of all people..why that one person you trusted completely...well...i think that's why I learned to be careful in choosing my friend...I learned to be careful whom I trust...but I have been blessed to be with people who cares for me...people who will never leave me no matter what...people who are always willing to listen to my rants...people who never get tired of my unending stories...
And they are the reason why I enjoy my life...they are the reason why I wake up each day with a smile on my face...the reason why I am not afraid to take the risk...knowing that I might fall but they will never let me reach the ground...I love them for the way they have always been there for me...especially at times when everything seemed so sad...I love them for always being true when I am wrong...but most especially I love them for accepting me just the way I am...no pretensions...no if's and no but's....
life...
life has its own way of making us learn from our mistakes..the more we try to keep ourselves from all the worries of life...the more we keep our hearts from getting broken..the more we get hurt..the more we suffer..no one can ever understand what is really in store for us in this lifetime...we meet people who in one way or another has touched our lives and changed our perspective...we overcome challenges that come our way..we get our heart badly broken...we are made to decide for our lives...but sometimes we just cant understand why things has to happen....
we've been through a lot in our life..we've experienced all kinds of pain...we've been hurt...we've been betrayed...but we still manage to move on believing that life has more to offer than bad hair days, lies, broken hearts, and broken promises...we live each day knowing that God has given us all the things we need to be happy...we wake up each day believing that a brand new day has come for us to be happy...that life is a matter of choice..we only get to live once so we better make the most out of it...we've believed in ourself more than anybody else would...we've trusted that everything would be fine because we have faith that HE would never leave us...
i guess that's what really life is all about...it is about the choices we make...right or wrong but at least we have to stand by it...we cannot let ourselves dwell on something wrong that we did...because life has to move on...we live life the way we want to...and God has given us the gift to decide and we better use that wisely...and trust that no matter what happens..HE will never leave us with nothing..HE is always there to guide us and make sure that we live our lives to the fullest....
Life's Journey
Do not undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others.
It is because we are different that each of us is special.
Do not set your goals by what other people deem important.
Only you know what is best for you.
Do not take for granted the things closest to your heart.
Cling to them as you would your life; for without them, life is meaningless.
Do not let your life slip through your fingers by living in the past nor for the future.
By living your life one day at a time, you live all of the days of your life.
Do not give up when you still have something to give.
Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.
It is a fragile thread that binds us to each other.
Do not be afraid to encounter risks.
It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave.
Do not shut love out of your life by saying it is impossible to find.
The quickest way to receive love is to give love.
The fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly.
In addition, the best way to keep love is to give it wings.
Do not dismiss your dreams.
To be without dreams is to be without hope.
To be without hope is to be without purpose.
Do not run through life so fast that you forget not only where
you have been, but also where you are going.
Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored
each step of the way.
A lesson to learn
Bakit kaya minsan ang sarap magmahal kahit walang kapalit??? naisip mo na ba iyon? kala mo okey lang... pero sobrang hirap... Masarap magmahal hindi ba? Kahit ikaw, hindi ka sigurado sa pag-ibig ng taong mahal na mahal mo... Minsan iniisip mo nalang na pagdating ng tamang panahon magiging maayos din ang lahat... Sana nga!!! Nang hindi ka naman mukhang tanga na umaasa sa wala... Minsan din ang sarap sarap isipin na minamahal ka ng taong mahal mo!!! yung tipong kayo na lang sana at hindi ang babaeng nakikita mong kasama nya na masaya at akala ang buong mundo ay kanilang kanila... Minsan din ang sarap bumalik sa nakaraan... yung tipong masaya pa kayo, parang mga batang walang problema... kung meron man parang, against all odds ang settings... pero may nakabitin pa ring tanong... ano kayang nangyari??? pero ang kadalasang kasagutan e: 1. kasi di pala kami para sa isat-isa; 2. Nagkamali ako sa kanya; 3. iniwan lang nya ko; 4. may iba na syang mahal; 5. niloko lang nya ko; 6. Di ako gusto ng parents nya; 7. ayoko na puro nalang kami away; 8. masyado nya kong sinasaktan; 9. nagsawa na sya sakin; pero ito pinaka masakit;. 10.hindi pala nya talaga ako mahal (parang panakip butas) Grabe hindi ba??? Pero kailan kaya natin maririnig na nagpapasalamat ang isang umiibig sa taong nakasakit at sinaktan sya??? minsan naisip din kaya natin na kung ano ang kahalagahan ng isang bagay??? Yung kailangang bigyan ng halaga habang nandyan pa! Minsan kasi, saka lang natin
nalalaman ang isang kahalagahan ng isang bagay pag wala na ito sa atin!!! kaya minsan din isipin natin yung mga sinasabi, kinikilos, ginagawa natin kasi hindi lahat ng tao kayang tanggapin kung ano at paano natin ginagawa ang isang bagay!!! subukan nating ngpasalamat sa kabila ng lahat...
A. kung sinaktan ka nya... magpasalamat ka dahil sya ang dahilan para tumibay ka;
B. kung niloko ka nya... patawarin mo at pasalamatan mo... dahil kung hindi sa kanya hindi mo mararamdam ang sakit na pwede ding maramdaman ng iba... at least hindi mo gagawain sa iba;
C. kung hindi ka nya minahal... pasalamatan mo!!! dahil at least kahit papano na-feel mo na minahal ka nya kahit hindi, pasalamat sya dahil ikaw minahal mo sya ng buong buo; minsan kailangan lang natin harapin kung ano man ang nakasakit sa atin... piliting kalimutan... piliting harapin kung ano ang noon... noon lang yun... iba ang ngayon!!! dahil kung nasaktan ka man noon, ngayon mag-iingat ka na at alam mo na kung ano dapat at hindi para hindi masaktan. mhalin mo ang mga taong nakasakit sayo dahil sila ang dahilan para maging matibay ka!!!! para sa susunod di kana basta-basta padalos-dalos. pasalamatan mo ang taong nakasakit sayo...
sino ba ang mas mahalaga, ang taong mahal mo o yung taong gusto mong mahalin??? ang taong kasama mo buong araw o ang taong
iniicip mo bago matapos ang araw??? siya bang kasa-kasama mo sa lahat ng ginagawa mo o siyang dahilan ng lahat ng galaw at ginagawa mo??? sino ba ang mas mahalaga... yung taong nais mong makasama habang buhay o yung taong hindi mo makita ang habang buhay kapag wala siya? Sino ang mas matimbang... yung taong pag
kasama mo'y parang kay bilis ng oras o yung taong tuwing iniicp mo'y parang kay bagal ng oras? ano ang susundin mo... ang dinidikta mo sa puso mo o ang dinidikta ng puso mo syo? sya ba un laging pumapasok sa isip mo o siya yung laging laman ng panaginip mo?Sino nga ba... ang taong nagpaluha syo, o ang taong nagpunas sa minsang pagluha mo? Sino sa kanila... ang taong nagpapatawa syo o
ang taong dahilan ng lahat ng iyong emosyon? Sino nga bang pipiliin mo??? ANG TAONG MULING NAGBUKAS NG PUSO MO... O ANG TAONG MATAGAL NG NANDOON???
LOVE lang ba o INLOVE ka na?
marami sa atin ang naco2nfuse tungkol dito. Ikaw ba ay may girlfriend o boyfriend ngaun? Mahal mo ba siya pero prang may isang tao na parang mahalaga din sayo. o may mahal ka n akala mo eh... mahal mo nga siya pero meron ka pa rin isang tao na minamahal ng totoo.
Kapag love mo ang isang tao masaya ka.. Feeling mo ok na ang lahat.. pero kung inlove ka, masakit yun! Kasi ang mga taong inlove ay ang mga taong ngsasakripisyo at ngpaparaya. Teka bakit ka nga ba ngpaparaya? kc di ka niya mahal o dhil hindi ka siguradong ok lng sa knya? Kung yan ang dahilan mo, inlove ka nga sa knya. Kasi iniisip mo kung ano meron kayo sa ngaun at kontento ka na.
Pero isipin mo pano kung mawala ang taong yun at tlgng hindi na kau mgusap at magkita,kaya mo ba? pano kung maguluhan siya sayo at maisipang layuan ka? pano kung sa sobrang pagiging iba mo sa kanya di ka nya kausapin at tuldukan na kung ano na ang meron kau? kya mo ba? kung hindi ang sagot mo inlove ka nga.. Pano naman pag mahal mo lang, alam mo na parati kang may choice, ayaw mo siyang mawala dhil alm mong wala ka ipapalit.
Ung masaya ka sa kanya pero sa gabi hindi naman siya ang iniisip mo. Mahal mo siya pero aminado ka sa sarili mo na balang araw hindi siya ang pakakasalan mo. Mahal mo siya pero ang puso mo hindi lng pra sa kanya.. Mahal mo at masasaktan ka pagnawala siya pero alam mo na kaya mo un.
Ngaun Love lng ba o Inlove ka na?
Isang araw magigising ka n lang na inlove ka na nga pero huli na.
Tandaan: Masyadong mapaglaro ang puso wag tayo magpaloko!! ipost mo ulit to 2lungn natin na maliwanagan ang iba..
This is real nkatulong nato sa iba, Eto ang naging dahiln na nasabi nya sa taong inlove siya ng totoo... so we can have somebody to talk to? someone who can be there pag gusto natin gumala? a person na pwedeng manlibre sa'tin? taong magbibitbit ng gamit mo? ---alalay for short!
eh pano kung di ka nya mahal, would you still love him/her? would you still continue to care for that person? bakit naman hinde dba? you didn't love that person para magkaroon ka ng alalay, magkaroon ka ng instant meal dahil libre, taong gagawa ng assignments mo or projects, or taong mahihila mo if you want to go out... if that's what you think about love, well sorry ang babaw mo!
loving a person doesn't need to have a criteria na dapat maganda o guwapo, dapat mabait or understanding, kasi once you fall in love you take the risk of accepting that person kahit maingay sya matulog, ung hilik ng hilik kahit matakaw sya o sobrang fat na hindi kayo kasya pag puno ang jeep! kahit sobrang moody nya na kulang nalang ay sapakin mo sa inis! ung sobrang selosa na pati barkada pinagseselosan, badtrip di'ba? and yung napaka-arte, OA kung baga! o kahit ano pang things that would turn you off... hirap talaga magmahal trying to be perfect kasi gusto mong magtagal pero hindi yun ang sagot sa lahat...
ACCEPTING the real person fully kasi if you said na mahal mo sya, you don't need to find answers kung why mo sya love... kasi lahat ng tao nagbabago but if you accept that person magbago man sya in the middle of your relationship hindi ka masasaktan kasi you know that darating din yun.. tsaka tanggap mo sya ng buo... mahirap gawin pero masarap subukan dahil wala ng sasaya pa if you let one person feel na MAHAL NA MAHAL mo sya without asking for any in return... then you can say, wow yun pala ang LOVE!
love quotes
Posted by juliefromdablock at 12:46 AM on October 24, 2005 in .
There are times when love calls us to stand for something we believe in, despite of all the things that are against it. The call of love is a call to courage and determination. Sometimes it even calls for a choice between two things that are equally important to us. Who to choose and who to turn our backs on depends on how much we are willing to risk.
If falling in love is wrong then life is unjust. True love doesn't look at the world like there is a heaven and an earth. All is just fair. No one should be above or below anybody else. Everyone is equal. That's how love looks at things.
But it is sad that many of us carry a measuring cup and judge people by what they don't have and who they are not, rather than what they can actually become.
But at the end of the day, it will be you and you alone who should make that decision on who to choose to spend the rest of your life with.
Love should never be a choice made by others for us. A relationship is something that we should be willingly getting into or getting out of. It is true that there will always be a risk when we make our own decisions. But it is all part of life. Those who enjoy life are those who are not afraid to take the risks. Those who succeed are those who make their own decisions and responsibly stand by them.
Love is a choice and one that only you can make. Ask yourself if you are ready to take that step. If you are not then it simply means that you are not yet prepared to love. Because those who find lasting happiness are not those who fear the consequences of loving a person, but those who bravely face the challenge of that love.
When you think of your past love, you may view it as a failure. But when you find a new love, you view the past as a teacher.
In the game of love, it doesn't really matter who won or who lost. What is important is you know when to hold on and when to let go!
You know you really love someone when you want him or her to be happy, even if their happiness means that you're not part of it.
Everything happens for the best. If the person you love doesn't love you back, don't be afraid to love someone else again, for you'll never know unless you give it a try. You'll never love a person you love unless you risk for love.
Love strives in hurting. If you don't get hurt, you don't learn how to love. Love doesn't hurt all the time. Though the hurting is still there to test you, to help you grow.
Don't find love, let love find you. That's why it's called falling in love because you don't force yourself to fall.
You cannot finish a book without closing it's chapters. If you want to go on, then you have to leave the past as you turn the pages.
Love is not destroyed by a single failure or won by a single caress. It is a lifetime venture in which we are always learning, discovering and growing.
The greatest irony of love is letting go when you need to hold on and holding on when you need to let go. We lose someone we love only when we are destined to find someone else who can love us even more that we can love ourselves.
On falling out of love, take some time to heal and then get back on the horse. But don't ever make the same mistake of riding the same one that threw you the first time.
To love is to risk rejections, to live is to risk dying, to hope is to risk failure. But risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is risk nothing!
To reach for another is to risk involvement, to expose your feelings is to expose true self, to love is to risk not to be loved in return. How to define love: fall but do not stumble, be constant but not too
persistent, share and ever be unfair, understand and try not to demand, hurt but never keep the pain.
Love is like a knife. It can stab the heart or it can carve wonderful images into the soul that always last for a lifetime. Love is supposed to be the most wonderful feeling. It should inspire you and give you joy and strength. But sometimes the things that give you joy can also hurt you in the end.
Loving people means giving them the freedom who they choose to be and where they choose to be. For all the heartaches and the tears, for gloomy days and fruitless years, you should give thanks, for you know, that there were the things that helped you grow. Loving someone means giving him the freedom to find his way, whether it leads towards you or away from you.
Love is a painful risk to take but the risk must be taken no matter how scary or painful, for only then you'll experience the fullness of humanity and that is love. Only love can hurt your heart, fill you with desire and tear you apart. Only love can make you cry and only love knows why. If you're not ready to cry, if you're not ready to take the risk, if you're not ready to feel the pain, then you're not ready to fall in love. There was a time in our lives when we became afraid to fall in love coz every time we do, we get hurt, then I figured that's why it's called falling in love.
Love don't give us the promise of forever, but having faith on it makes us believe that there is.
Love is not a one-shot deal that you have to get right at first. You will always make mistakes and find your ideal partner. Love is also a process of finding your way, finding the right one.
The greates mistake we'll make in a relationship is when we look at somebody else other than our partner to satisfy our emotional and physical needs. The second mistake is when we consciously allow ourselves to be the object of these emotional and physical desires.
We can never be certain of our relationships because not all of them are built to last our lifetime. We have to constantly nurture it so it can grow and we can grow old with it.
In the midst of despair, pain, and sorrow, someone comes in our life and gives us strength to believe in life again. The love they give us gives us a blind faith that helps us believe in ourselves again, that we can make our dreams come true.
Love can be the best thing that will ever happen to you. More often than not, your lover is also your bestfriend, one who will stand by you through thick and thin.
Most ordinary relationships begin and most of them continue as forms of mutual exploitation, a mental or physical barter, to be terminated when one or both parties run out of goods. The truth is you will not rn out of goods if you believe you won't.
People cannot change who you really are. You just have to tell them and be honest about th real person behind you. You cannot hide in your cloak of deception forever. You desreve to be happy just by being yourself.
A relationship is a two way street. It's never all your fault or the other person's. You go into the relationship together and work thorugh it all together. And remember, the best relationship is one w/c your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
When we begin to put so much weight on what others fell and think about our relationships, we become distracted and lose our own perception of our partners.
If you choose to fight for love, then you should be prepared to face the consequences and risk associated with it. But if you choose to follow tradition over the dictate of your heart the you also have to be prepared to lose someone you love.
Let us always remember that, in the end it is not how much love we have received that would count, but how much love we have given and how much more we are willing to give even without the promise of earning it back.
We constantly have to make an extra effort to make others feel that they are important to us and the small things they do are appreciated. The greatness of a relationship is built on the foundation of small acts of kindess, love and compassion.
Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life at this moment, they are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment. There is a purpose and meaning behind all events, and this purpose and meaning develops you as a person and as a lover.
"Waiting is painful. Forgetting is painful. But not knowing which one to do is the worse kind of suffering."
painful things
01. flashing your smile to someone you don't want to see
02. bringing back the feeling you've learned to forget
03. showing that you care
04. finding a way to mend a broken heart
05. learning that you've been used by someone you truly love
06. saying "i love you" when you mean it and when you don't
07. letting go of a person you've just learned to love
08. realizing that you love somebody you've just taken for granted
09. realizing that you love the person you've just broken up with
10. waiting for promises you know she or he'll ever keep
11. saying your love for someone who loves somebody else
12. reminiscing the good times u shared together
13. shielding your heart to love somebody
14. trying to hide what you really feel
15. having a commitment w/ someone that you know would not last
16. trying to hide the tears that voluntarily fall from your eyes
17. sharing the one you love w/ someone else
18. loving a person too much
19. giving up someone you never thought of giving up
20. falling in love for the first time
21. loving someone you haven't seen
22. having the right love at the wrong time
23. exerting effort to make the relationship last or work
24. not being appreciated when you know you've given your best
25. taking the risk to fall in love again
26. hiding your relationship from someone else
27. controlling your feelings to avoid hurting a friend
28. choosing between two persons whom you really love
29. finding out that you can never have the person you just let go of
30. seeing the person you love with someone else
31. learning that the person who claimed to have loved you so
much never really cared
32. seeing the one you love fall for someone else
33. falling for your best friend and knowing that things can never be the same again
34. learning to trust after you have been betrayed
35. accepting that it was not meant to be
36. smiling when all you want to do is cry
37. falling and knowing that it can never be
38. not being able to love the person who truly cares for you
39. saying that you can never love a person the way he loves you
40. hearing that he can never love you the way that you love him
41. saying that you are over someone you still love
42. being friends again and learning to let go of each other coz
you both know it is better that way
43. convincing oneself that you are not in love when you know that you are
44. having to let go because you know that he deserves someone else
45. trying not to remember how perfect everything used to be
most relationships fail not because of the absence of love.
Love is always present...
it's just that one loves too much and the other loves too little....
if i cud ask God 1 thing
it would be
"are you destind for me?"
if he says yes
den ill love you even more!
if he says no
den ill continue to love you
til i can make him agree
dat wer rili meant to be..
they say "Love is blind.." but in reality..LOVE IS NOT BLIND..it simply enables one to see things others fail to see!
Loving As A Choice
There are times when love calls us to stand for something we believe in, despite of all the things that are against it. The call of love is a call to courage and determination. Sometimes it even calls for a choice between two things that are equally important to us. Who to choose and who to turn our backs on depends on how much we are willing to risk.
If falling in love is wrong then life is unjust. True love doesn't look at the world like there is a heaven and an earth. All is just fair. No one should be above or below anybody else. Everyone is equal. That's how love looks at things.
But it is sad that many of us carry a measuring cup and judge people by what they don't have and who they are not, rather than what they can actually become.
But at the end of the day, it will be you and you alone who should make that decision on who to choose to spend the rest of your life with.
Love should never be a choice made by others for us. A relationship is something that we should be willingly getting into or getting out of. It is true that there will always be a risk when we make our own decisions. But it is all part of life. Those who enjoy life are those who are not afraid to take the risks. Those who succeed are those who make their own decisions and responsibly stand by them.
Love is a choice and one that only you can make. Ask yourself if you are ready to take that step. If you are not then it simply means that you are not yet prepared to love. Because those who find lasting happiness are not those who fear the consequences of loving a person, but those who bravely face the challenge of that love.
12 Better Explanations of LOVE....
"We all want to fall in love. Why? Because that experience makes us feel completely alive. Where every sense is heightened, every emotion is magnified, our everyday reality is shattered and we are flying into the heavens. It may only last a moment, an hour, an afternoon. But that doesn't diminish its value. Because we are left with memories that we treasure for the rest of our lives."
1) Don't turn your back on love when it's already in front of you. Don't drive it away from you, because if you do, someday, you'll think again, why you let love fly when it was there next to you.
2) In Love, think things over first if you're sure about how you feel. Don't fall too hard not knowing where you will stand, 'coz it will hurt real bad if things don't go the way you want them to be.
3) It's an irony to know that it takes hours for someone to have guts to say "hi" to the one he likes, days to admire, weeks to miss the person, months to love, but just a blink of an eye to say goodbye...
4) Go for the person who loves you. It is not wrong to love someone who belongs to someone else, but it is much better to love someone who could also love you in return.
5) Love isn't something we hold, it is something we set free, It's not something we just do, but it's something we don't imagine to be. Lastly, it's not something we choose, it chooses us...
6) The scariest thing about falling in love is getting hurt. The scariest thing about getting hurt is not being able to love again. The scariest thing about not loving again is being alone forever.
7) When you follow your heart, worry not where it will lead you, for your heart knows the way. And if you do get lost or reach a dead end, use your head to lead you back home.
8) When you truly care for someone, you don't look for faults, you don't look for answers, you don't look for mistakes. Instead, you fight for the mistakes, you accept the faults, and you overlook excuses.
9) It's better to lose your pride over the one you love, than lose your loved one over your useless pride.
10) Love is not "it's your fault", but "I'm sorry", not "where are you?", but "I'm here", not "how could you?", but "I understand", not "I wish you were here", but "I'm thankful you are".
11) The beginning of love is to let those we love be just themselves, and not twist with our own image. Otherwise, we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.
12) If a relationship is truly meant for you, your love will find a way to make it happen, and God will be there to make sure it will stay.
THE EPITOME OF LOVE
Is it in the way you look at me that makes me fall for you,
the gentle way your eyes caress, the twinkle that besets the darkness of your stare,
the happy glow your face takes on when I reach your sight?
Is it in the way your fingers lock with mine
that sends shivers through my soul,
the assuring touch that holds me close, and wipes away the tears that fall?
Is it in the way we join that spreads fire,
the passion invoked with longing and need?
The epitome of love becomes pronounced in a single breathless moment,
when our persons bend and twine together,
the breaking point reached and we can only cry, but in the end we only laugh,
when I would much rather go one way and you the other,
but then we stop and choose the corresponding path,
when I would choose to fly and you to run,
and we reach a horizon where the earth meets the sky.
The epitome of love that builds
upon layer and layer of trust, hope, faith and dreams; the blood that
oozes out of every wound, and climaxes in a spectral threshold of living and dying in the confines of your love.
TRUE
Anyone who has gone through the agony of losing someone he/she loves so much will still wish against all odds to have that love back again. But, sometimes a love lost is a love gone forever. No amount of hope can bring to life a relationship that just died a natural death. Set yourself free. Let your heart spread its wings and fly.
Remember, it may rain for 40 days and 40 nights, but still will notrain forever. One day the pouring will stop and there will be plenty of branches where you can find rest. One of these is where you will build your nest and start over again. It's never too late.
Remember, you may find love and lose it but "WHEN LOVE DIES, YOU NEVER HAVE TO DIE WITH IT". Remember that you cannot be a redeemer all your life. The best way to weigh a relationship is out in the test of fire.
Remember, we all fail and make wrong decisions but our blunders are meant not to bury us deep in misery but to teach us the valued lessons of life.
Loving is always a learning process. With love,
* We learn how to care and sacrifice.
* We learn to share and reach out.
* We learn to be unselfish and give more than we can. And when everything doesn't end well,
* we learn how it feels to fall, we strive to get back on our feet and move on.
This is where we learn that "Life doesn't end where our heartaches begin". THERE IS NO FUTURE IN A RELATIONSHIP OF LIES AND SELFISHNESS.
It's true, there's life in love. But, there can still be
life even after losing love if you leave the past behind and let your heart heal and give you the chance to find yourself again. The success of a relationship lies not only in the beauty of its beginning but in its consistency. Make a choice not on impulse but a decision based on a healthy balance of mind and heart. Let us always remember that "HAPPINESS IS NOT A MATTER OF DESTINY BUT A MATTER OF CHOICE".
So....... screw destiny! There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone so nice and beautiful and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person. This feeling soon becomes part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our thoughts and actions.
The sad part of its when we begin to realize that this person feels nothing more for us than friendship. We start our desperate attempt to get noticed and be closer but in the end our efforts are still unrewarded and we end up being sorry for ourselves. You dont have to forget someone you love. What you need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for yourself. You would be better off giving that dedication and love to someone more deserving.
Don't let your heart ruin your life, be sensible and let your mind speak for itself. Listen not only to your feelings but to reason as well. Always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow... which is a very nice way of saying than someone dumped you for someone better.
"If you lose love, that doesnt mean that you have failed in love. Cry if you have to, but make sure that the tears washes away the hurt and the bitterness that the past left you with. Let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to you. And when it does, pray that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime.
A woman/man on the rebound could easily fall for sweeping emotions and be made to falsely believe that he/she finally stumbled upon the right man/woman when what she just found is only someone to cover up for the love she/he lost.
A woman/man who makes promises with words and not with actions may never live up to fulfill them.
"IT'S TRUE THAT LOVE CAN WAIT FOREVER BUT IT IS CRAZY TO STUBBORNLY HOPE FOR SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T EVEN CARE OR UNDERSTAND HOW WE FEEL".
why does loving means letting go?
There is one question that really bothers me a lot...why do you need to let go of someone you love if it means heartbreak to you?
If there is one thing that you really need to do in a relationship it is to let go..it's the hardest thing to do...to set the person you love free because that means happiness to him and loneliness to you...but they say that if you love someone you have to set him free and if he returns he is yours, but if he doesnt, he never was. The only way you will learn if it's really meant to be is if you set him free. And if you really love someone you should be happy for him even if his happiness means youre not a part of it. But how can you be happy when you know that the one you love is with someone else while you're heart is aching because you still love him? Isnt that unfair? You give up everything for him to be happy but for him it's not enough. He is still searching for something...something that you dont have. And when he found it, he will just say goodbye and leave you with a brokenheart. And there is nothingyou can do but accept the reality that he no longer loves you...that he has found someone better than you. It makes you feel that your at fault and you have done something wrong or what you have given is not enough.
But let us look at the brighter sad of the story. Isnt it when someone left you, you examine yourself. You try to realize what you have done that made him leave you. You realize your mistakes and found out that he doesnt truly love you. And the next time you fall in love, you know better and learned your lesson.
It's really hard to let go of someone you really love. It takes a lot of courage, guts and determination. But some good things never last...we must grow together with our partner in a relationship...and if what you have right now makes you sad...there's no better way than to let go...we all change and sometimes it's best to just let loose...no explanations needed..no more pulling on his sleeves..no more kneeling..just accept that he isnt yours anymore...
Remember that it is in LETTING GO that one HOLDS ON...
the truth about LoVe...
Let's admit it...when we talk to our friends about love, we can't stop ourselves from giggling and worst screaming...it seems that when the topic of conversation is love we are all ears and eager to listen..
why?...nobody can tell...maybe because we want to know how to make a relationship work or grow deeper...and maybe it helps to know that we are not alone...that we are not the only one who wants to love and be loved in return...
what is it in "love" that makes our heart skip a little faster?...maybe the feeling it brings us...the joy and the pain...i guess it is the feeling of security...and the thought that you belong to someone...the thought that someone is there to cast away your fears...to dry your tears...and to protect you...to love you always and will never hurt you...
i have read that love is not a feeling..it is a decision...because we choose to whom we will give our hearts..it is not a feeling because if it is a feeling it is something that floats in the air and will soon change or vanish...but if it's a decision...we hold onto it and we fight for it...if we decide to love one person for all of our lives we commit ourselves to that person and promise to love him for all of our lives...and if we turned our backs onto that decision...it means we never really loved...because love never fades...it's not an emotion...it will never fade because once we make a decision we stand by it...we work hard to make it work..no matter what...
whatever it is in "love" that makes us (especially women) go "gaga" over it...nobody really knows...sometimes the thought that you are being loved makes life worthwhile...sometimes the thought that somebody is there to just love you for the way you are makes you go on with life...with all the aches...the disappointments..the lies..the betrayals...everything in life is temporary..we may be hurting right now but soon enough we will find happiness...we have to enjoy each moment and give love...because that's the only way we can be happy...
and i guess true enough...we all have loved...and got hurt...we all gave our best to make a relationship work but sometimes it's not meant to be...we all trusted too much only to be betrayed...we all gave everything and did not expect anything in return...we all lost control over a relationship we wanted to last...but did not...we all have gone through this...but we never gave up our hope on love...because we believe that love still works...at the right time...with the right people...
the truth about love is that no matter how much hurt and pain we go through...the good times..the happy times...the sweet moments...no matter how brief...makes loving still worth it...
The art of letting go
It's over. He's gone.
Why do we have to part while the love is still there? Why do we have to suffer? Why do we have to cry when somebody bids goodbye? Why do beginnings have an end? Why do we have to meet only to lose in the end?
There are questions left unanswered, words left unsaid, letters left unread, poems left undone, songs left unsung, love left unexpressed, promises left unfulfilled.
In a relationship, one of the hardest things to do is saying goodbye and letting go. It is as hard as breaking a crystal because you'll never know when you will be able to pick up the pieces again. More often than not, they who go, feel not the pain of parting: it is they who stay behind that suffer, because they are left with memories of a love that was meant to be, a love that was.
At the beginning and at the end of a relationship, we are embarrassed to find ourselves alone. Unfair as it may seem, but that's the way love goes. That's the drama, the bittersweet and the risk of falling in love. After all, nothing is constant but change. Everything will eventually come to its end without us knowing when, without us knowing how, without us even knowing why. And we must forget not because we have to but because we have to.
In letting go, sorrows come not as a single spy but in battalion. It seems that everywhere you go, everything you do, every song you hear, every turn of your head, every move of your body, every beat of your heart, every blink of your eye and every breath you take always reminds you of him. It's like a stab of a knife, a torture in the night. Funny how the whole world becomes depopulated when only one person is missing. Just imagine there are billion people on earth and yet it seems you feel lonely and empty without the other.
I don't know if it's worth calling an art, but letting go entails special skills sparkled with a considerable space and time. Time heals all wounds but it takes a little push on our part. Acceptance plays a part. Not all love stories end with "...and they live happily ever after."
Sometimes we have to part because of circumstances beyond our control. We have to suffer if it would mean happiness for others. We have to cry to temporarily let go of the pains. Every beginning has its end like every dawn has its dusk. It's something we can't control, something we had to live up.
It's over. He's gone. But life has to go on. Goodbye doesn't always mean forever. There will always be a place and time where questions will be answered, words will be spoken, letters will be read, poems will be recited in the night, songs will be sung in harmony, love will be expressed in solitude and promises will be fulfilled. Somewhere, Somehow, Someday.
Be what you are...
There are times when no matter how much we show our love and give so much of ourselves to someone, we still cannot find enough reason why he or she doesn't seem to care about us.
When we start assessing the value of someone, quantifying and qualifying the kind of person he or she is, we begin to lose grasp of the real essence of love. Real love doesn't look at reasons to love. When we truly love a person, we just love that person regardless of what he or she can or cannot give us back. When we start to have reasons for loving someone, then we're bound to fall out of love when we lose these reasons. It has been said that the greatest measure of love is its ability to continue loving even when we cannot find a reason to love anymore. That is the real essence of love. When we can think of one reason not to love a person, then we can't be capable of truly loving because love doesn't keep a scale of what it can gain from a relationship. Real love is unselfish.
Someone weight on the kind of person they think you are and the kind of family they think you have. They doesn't love you. They can only love you if you become the person they want you to be. And you cannot be that person. You shouldn't even be that person. You are who you are and you should be loved not for what someone wants you to be but for who you truly are.
Let it also remind you how much more beautiful it would be if that love is shared with someone who will accept you for who you are, and love you not for what you can become but what he becomes because of you.
A Fear of Losing Him Completely
It is completely normal to feel a certain amount of fear at the thought of losing the people we love and the people whom we know love us. I believe that it is this fear that constantly reminds us of our responsibility to contribute to the wellness of our relationships. Complacency becomes evident when we become so comfortable with our partners to the point of taking them for granted. Without the fear of losing them, we become catalysts for the destruction of our own relationships.
However, there is the downside of letting this fear go beyond the bounds of reason. Paranoia breeds mistrust that poisons healthy relationships. Letting this fear take over your mind and create pictures of infidelity pushes our protectiveness to a level that becomes uncomfortable for our partners. Outrageous feats of jealousy that go beyond sensibility can become very annoying and destructive as well.
Love alone cannot guarantee forever. You have to trust him. And you have to be complete to do that. In love, two halves do not make a whole. Only two complete individuals can make a whole. You have to resist the mistrust and jealousy that slowly erode the foundation of your relationship. Trust and respect are very important. And even if one fails in giving these, the other should be ready to forgive. This is the cycle of love, hurting, getting hurt, forgiving and starting again. Every time we go through this we become stronger persons. We become more equipped to face the challenges in our relationships.
There are a lot of times when our feelings don't think. When our emotions get too strong, we should stop for a while and let reason guide our actions. Let Him know that you trust him. He needs that. Don't let your imagination go beyond what your eyes can see. Fear not that you will lose his love; but fear that you may be the one to push him out of love.
Between Trying Again and Someone New
It seems that you are caught between reviving a dying relationship and nurturing a new and promising one. This is a case where hard decisions have to be made, because you simply cannot aspire for both of them. Rebuilding a relationship from a lost trust is very difficult, because you have to take away every doubt that lingers in your mind. You have to believe in him again and put aside any thought that would make you doubt him.
In any case, this simply puts the fact forward that there is always a risk in getting into and being in a relationship. Saying “I love you” is not enough anymore. Promises are broken and vows are put to the test everyday. Being in a relationship is a constant struggle to keep the love, and make the excitement of being in it endure. This is no easy task. We sometimes get to a point where love simply becomes inadequate to prevent us from experimenting on new relationships.
Let us always remember that sometimes we just have to stop pushing ourselves to love or be loved by someone. Sometimes we just have to be alone to be able to think about what we really want in life, to be able to realize what or who will really make us happy. Sometimes it is only when we start loving ourselves that we are able to realize that real and lasting happiness starts from within ourselves, and becomes even more complete when we share it with someone who loves us.
When the best isn't good enough...
It is true that acceptance is the first step to moving on but we have always believed that we can never forget the person we love. You may have accepted that he doesn't love you anymore but have you really asked yourself if you feel the same way?
Acceptance will put one foot forward on the road to recovery, but the only way to move on completely is to get the other foot out from the love that binds your heart to him. Peace is in knowing that you are breathing the fresh air of the present without being tainted by the stale memories of the past. Every time you cry whenever you remember him adds one glowing ember to the flame in your heart. Every time you become sad when you think of your happy moments together blows more air to that burning fire. As long as there is that fiery emotion burning inside your heart, you will never be at peace with yourself.
For most of us, there will always be a past that will remind us of beautiful memories that we wish would come back to life. But the difference between those who have found real happiness and those who are tirelessly searching for it lies in their ability to stop living in their past and wishing for the things that could have been. Happy people are those who know how to accept the verdict of the past and forgive themselves for being part of it.
When we have loved and failed, we have to grieve for a while and then learn to stop loving that person. Only when we are able to do that can we open our hearts anew and learn to love again without having to be burdened by the guilt and regrets of the past.
thank you Lord.. 
